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2 Apr 2024

Pregnancy Loss After a Medical Abortion

Pregnancy Loss After a Medical Abortion
If you have experienced a pregnancy loss after a medical abortion, we want you to know that you are not alone. Dealing with the complex emotions that come with such an experience can be challenging, but remember that healing is possible.
Understanding Your Emotions
It's normal to feel a wide range of emotions after experiencing a pregnancy loss following a medical termination.
Here are a few emotions you may encounter:
  • Grief: Allow yourself to grieve the loss of your pregnancy and the hopes and dreams you had for your little one. It's important to acknowledge and honor your feelings during this time.
  • Guilt or Shame: You may experience guilt or shame, questioning your decision to terminate the pregnancy. Remember that you made the decision based on your unique circumstances and what you believed was best for you and your family.
  • Sadness and Anger: Sadness and anger are common emotions to feel during the grieving process. Give yourself permission to express and process these feelings in healthy ways.
Seeking Support
During this challenging time, reaching out for support is crucial. Consider these avenues for support:
  • Counseling or Therapy: Professional counseling or therapy can provide a safe space for you to express your emotions, gain insights, and develop coping strategies for healing.
  • Support Groups: Joining a support group for individuals who have experienced pregnancy loss can offer a sense of community, understanding, and validation. Sharing your story with others who have gone through similar experiences can be incredibly healing.
  • Confiding in Loved Ones: Lean on your trusted friends and family members for emotional support. Opening up about your feelings and allowing others to be there for you can help you feel less alone in your journey.
Honoring Your Loss
Finding ways to honor and remember your lost pregnancy can be an essential part of the healing process. Consider these ideas:
  • Rituals and Ceremonies: Create personal rituals or ceremonies that hold meaning for you, such as lighting a candle, planting a tree, or writing a letter to your baby.
  • Memorializing: You may find comfort in creating a memorial for your baby, such as a piece of artwork, a keepsake box, or a special piece of jewelry.
  • Naming Your Baby: Giving your baby a name can be a way to acknowledge their existence and honor their memory. Choose a name that holds significance and helps you feel connected to your little one.
Taking Care of Yourself
Self-care is crucial as you navigate through grief and healing. Here are some self-care practices to consider:
  • Physical Self-Care: Take care of your physical well-being by nourishing your body with healthy foods, engaging in gentle exercises, getting enough rest, and prioritizing regular self-care activities.
  • Emotional Self-Care: Allow yourself to feel and process your emotions without judgment. Engage in activities that bring you joy and peace, such as journaling, practicing mindfulness or meditation, and engaging in hobbies that uplift your spirits.
  • Connecting with Others: Seek connections with individuals who provide comfort and understanding. Surround yourself with people who support and uplift you during this time.
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Hanan
27 Dec 2023

Hello lovelies. I am currently 7 weeks pregnant. This is my pregnancy after 2 losses. I woke up this morning with brown discharge, and everytime I wipe same thing. Idk what to do, or what to think. After loss, all I think about is a miscarriage. Has this happened to anyone? Sorry for the picture.

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Jleigh
This is old blood babe. Definitely doesn't seem like your gonna miscarry. I believe you and baby are good ❤️
27 Mar 2024

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Hanan
my love, you don't know how bad I want to hug you after this comment. keep prayers my way for me to finally be a mama!
27 Mar 2024

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Rayscha & Maelynn
3 Dec 2023

I’m hoping this finds the right crowd of mommas and I will first say if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all. I’ve stated before in my page this isn’t my first pregnancy. My first pregnancy like this one I had HG which is an extreme type of morning sickness condition that can cause fetal or maternal death in cases where it’s not treated correctly or even if it is treated your body is just to far gone you can lose the baby or your life. My first pregnancy I didn’t know I was pregnant until it was to late I had already developed hg and was not taking care of myself because I didn’t know what I had 1 but 2 I didn’t even know I was pregnant. During my pregnancy I was vomiting 10-20 times a day I lost so much weight I was getting malnourished and dehydrated and I was also vomiting blood. I spoke with doctors and every time I did they kept telling me there’s nothing wrong with me and would send me home even though I had told them my symptoms. I felt completely unheard but because they were doctors I thought I should just listen. In the mist of everything dealing with the sickness and pain and hormones it was decided because I was very Ill and my body was shutting down due to how sick I was the pregnancy had to be terminated. I am pro life for myself and sometime I feel like a hypocrite saying that because of what had to happen but in reality if I was not sick termination would have never been a thought. I took bump pictures with my first and even told my family that I was pregnant. There were times where I cried all day due to the HG and I had to leave my job because of it. It’s very hard healing from my first pregnancy because I feel that my body let my baby down that I let my baby down but I also feel let down because I reached out for help and was dismissed every time. One of my doctors even joked about how sick I was and til this day I get so mad at myself because I prayed to god to take me instead of my baby but with that being said I realized if he were to take me instead it would be the same as taking the bay as well. I have mixed emotions everyday on my first pregnancy, I don’t say I had a abortion I tell people I had a miscarriage because without that medical reason of my organs shutting down and me being that sick I would still have my baby today well longer than I did. It was said that I had already started to miscarry that the baby would’ve passed eventually but I can’t help but think would it have made it anyways. Things like this aren’t talked enough about and abortion is so badly talked about but people forget there are more things to a pregnancy ending than just people getting pregnant and saying they don’t want a baby. Some people fight for their babies but their bodies were just not ready for that battle. After I went though that experience I did a lot of research and so many women have said they same thing and felt the same way, medical termination is never talked about because people say it was a miscarriage because it’s badly frowned upon to end a pregnancy. I’m rambling but I feel like no one understand me and the way I feel. I have HG with this pregnancy as well and because of how doctors treated me again I moved states. There were times where I did not think I would make it both pregnancies but I’m here with my baby girl and for that I can think god.

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Leiha
God be the Glory❤️💪🙏🏾… You got this mamas. Glad you and baby girl are ok.
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Rayscha & Maelynn
We’re okay now but we went through a lot to get here. I still get sick but I’ve done so much research and came up with so many ways to try to help myself. I am Christian and believe in god but sometimes I think am I going to hell for terminating the pregnancy because it’s a sin. It eats at me everyday and through it all I miss my baby and I feel so bad that it went down the way it went down. Some people tell me without the loss of that baby I wouldn’t have this one. Some say I wouldn’t have my life without the loss of my first baby but I feel almost guilty for living because my baby didn’t get to.
27 Mar 2024

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Ellie may richard
2 Jul 2023

This is my first pregnancy after loss, i cannot work out if this is a faint positive or evap line. I am 10dpo

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Jessica
Looks like a positive
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Ellie may richard
I thought that but then I learnt about evap lines and it’s still early
27 Mar 2024

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Miranda
27 Jun 2023

Pregnancy after loss is so hard.. but seeing your 🌈baby thriving and measuring ahead with a nice strong heartbeat is the absolute best feeling in the world! New due date is Jan 26th! Baby is 9 weeks & 4 days! Heartbeat was 176!❤️

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💖Jazmiin&Jaz&PaytonMommy💙
Congratulations 🎉
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Joslynn
Congratulations 🎉
27 Mar 2024

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Tatiana
25 Jul 2022

im starting to think my first abortion mess me up! . but plenty ppl having babies after abortion idk man! im on the pre-seed! im just praying next month it'll happen👀🙏🏽 nd i had a miscarriage after i try again! after 5 months trying nothing happening im always going to doctor he told me once that my levels were high i could get pregnant after my cycle but nothing yet. i hope August goes well send me baby dust!

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Precious
Praying for you get some geritol the liquid kind
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Dawn
✨️✨️✨️✨️
27 Mar 2024

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