The role of grandparents

Since having that talk with my Dad about grandpa duties vs parent duties and updating our boundaries, it's been less "you look like me!" and more "you look just like your mama!" when he addresses Boogie. For the record, many would say I look just like my Dad so I always figured him saying that was him acknowledging how great of a copy and paste job I did when building Mr. Oogie Boogie. I guess this is him making extra efforts to show he understands his place as a grandparent. That's pretty cool of him!

How would you react? My birth dad has never had anything to do with me, he’s actually planned events including all the kids except me, received a family tree gift with every kid including his wives kids name on it except me. His wife messaged me inviting me to the family get together because I’m pregnant and bringing a grandchild into the world and said “so you don’t see the pictures and get upset like last time you weren’t invited” I personally am offended that they even feel entitled to the grandparent role after not being in my life for almost 26 years.