Growing up with an absent father

Okay so my son’s sperm donor is completely absent (has only seen him 4 times in his 9 months of living. Doesn’t check on him nor do. anything for him). My boyfriend is his father figure & it's very serious. We plan on marriage and even if we're not together he's still a father figure. SHOULD MY SON BE ABLE TO CALL MY BOYFRIEND DAD WHEN HE IS ABLE TO TALK ? Leave thoughts in the comments please

This has Ben so hard planing a baby shower all by my self my baby father has barely even talks to me just Ben asking my family members for help and his name is on the flyer and invitations he give me the idc vibe but I know that my son will receive lots of gift things he needs invited a few of my old co workers and family members and most people I know I cut off my friends because of him so I just have family co workers and his family it’s so stressful trying to plan something alone and the other persons names on the flyer just to take up space makes me upset because he’s letting his daughter dcyf situation effect my son once again it stresses me out because he’s absent on me and my son and I always try so hard to include him in things I’m really trying like the pictures I want to take and the baby shower I didn’t have to have him there because he hasn’t even Ben there he’s Ben absent and stressing me out I sleep alone every night cry in the shower in the morning and pray about it I also go to my appointments alone

With my child’s father so absent (unexpectedly) and then everyone around me just still living their lives I am very much lonely af during this pregnancy. My friends all want to be in the delivery room as I have my baby but I honestly think I want to just deliver my baby alone. It’s like my baby have me distancing myself more and more. For the most part my mental is fine but I know deep down I’m hurting and just think I should continue to finish this thing out alone. I may just have the baby at home in the tub lol let my kids deliver the baby. 🤷🏾‍♀️

some things I was thinking about this morning were that I grew up with an absent father & a neglectful mother (although she is here now supporting me) I do feel like my circumstances have shown me what to do & what not to do while raising my child, you can either learn from your upbringing or let it define you, I want to give my baby the life they deserve & to let them experience everything I didn’t, I have so much love to give overall & my baby will be the perfect outlet 🥰 they don’t know how much they are loved already & how spoiled they will be being the first grandchild, niece (or nephew)😍🥰🩷🩵

6 weeks pregnant with my first, And going through this pregnancy alone. Baby’s father is currently absent. Currently so stressed out. #single #mom #firstborn.

anybody else gonna get therapy to deal with feelings about absent baby's father? Cuz man,I need it. I've never been to therapy.....but I can't keep feeling like this about someone who insults me, insults my baby's name, swears at me, he himself refuses therapy to help him & I communicate respectfully. I wanna get better. I must, for baby Liesel's sake. (Liesel is pronounced "lee-SELL")

How can a person be absent from there child over a female..... My son is two weeks old ya'll .... Legend will be okay cause he has a strong mom .....

Anyone else a single mom ❓😩 it’s taking a while to adjust to because he was there for my first pregnancy and now the second pregnancy he’s literally absent #hurt #remainpositive #secondbaby #boymom

‼️‼️Serious question‼️‼️ Would you rather have a father that comes in and out of your life or an absent one?

It was really hurt when you feel like you going to be doing this alone. I sent my baby father my tissue this morning with the spotting, I got a little concern and I still haven’t heard from yet and I never wanted to be a baby mother, but he be seeing all this stuff but the actions is showing differently, I’m 15 wks and 4 days and I’ve been doing it alone, haven’t came to one ultrasound yet nor any of the emergency ultrasounds, it hurts, especially when he still love the person 😔 I LOVE MY BABY SOOO MUCH 🫶🏾, but I hope my baby don’t have an absent father, like I do 😔